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Overcoming Fears: Lowering The Gradient As A Way To Meet Up With Girls And Relate To Girls
Last week one of my friends asked a question that i thought was worth discussing. He asked me how to overcome fears that pop up at times - even if things are going good.

The truth is it is not an easy question to answer as it varies for every person. There are actually entire books that have been written on that subject alone. However, one of the best techniques I have used to overcome my fears usually involves lowering the gradient.

What are gradients? Gradients are like steps on a ladder. If you try to reach the top of the ladder on your first step, it will probably be impossible and you will fail. If you keep trying it over and over you will start building up a "complex" about failing, and soon not try anymore.

If you try to jump up five or six steps in your first attempt, it will also be scary - not necessarily impossible but scary. Probability is that if you have no experiences jumping that high you will fail too.

The right approach is to take the first step and then advance one-step at a time. It is the most comfortable method to climb a ladder.

Here are a few examples of how I apply that to overcome fears that pop up in meeting women and dating women:

As most guys do, I often go out to meet women in a social setting. This can be especially scary. So when I am approaching an attractive woman in a party, rather than telling her how beautiful she is and how much I am attracted to her (which exposes my fear of being shot down in front of many people and embarrassed) I lower the gradient of approach and simply say "Hi." If a girl likes you or is interested in you she will find a means to carry on the conversation. If she doesn't then i know she is not interested in me and the simple "Hi" just appears that I am friendly - not necessarily even flirting - so I don't feel shot down in front of others.

If I am starting to date a girl and I feel fearful taking the next step of trying to get intimate with her, I don't ask her "Would you like to get intimate?" I take a lower gradient and ask her if she would like to relax, get cozy, and just watch TV at my house. If she doesn't want to get intimate she certainly won't want to be alone with me, getting cozy at my house. Or rather than trying to suddenly "kiss her", I will simply hold her hand or give her gentle touches every now and then to see how responsive she is to my touch. If she likes my touch she will start touching me back to give me the go ahead signal.

These are some examples. Whenever you feel uncomfortable and fearful just try to consider a lower gradient which isn't as scary and allows you to make forward progress toward your goal. If you do this you will learn how to meet women and how to relate to them very quickly.

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